Today is a very honored and special day across the country, it honors our veterans who have served and are continually serving as well as those who have sacrificed and died for our country and freedom. Today also is very special as twenty years ago, I married my husband. We hit the Twenty Year Mark, a milestone of Marriage! However, we have not hit that milestone without going through plenty to get here.
Marriage defined by Webster's:
|n.||1.||The act of marrying, or the state of being married; legal union of a man and a woman for life, as husband and wife; wedlock; matrimony.|
Marriage is honorable in all.
|2.||The marriage vow or contract.|
|3.||A feast made on the occasion of a marriage.|
|4.||Any intimate or close union|
I can still remember the first time we met, the place, the people (thanks Randy). Basically the day the seed was planted. Only a couple of weeks later, after several late night telephone calls, was our official date. Our life began and the seed sprouted (quickly might I add). From getting engaged after four months of meeting and dating, then finding out we were going to be parents eight months into our relationship. Yes, sometimes protection just does not work! Well, with wedding plans in full motion, we decided, well I decided that I just did not want to be a pregnant bride. So, we held off for little over a year and our little family of three was officially one!
Twenty years, two decades, many years for many things to happen. I can say that these past years have been many emotions, some super great, some super not so great, it is Marriage, it is our Marriage! I do find it is interesting as the above definition says nothing about work. Marriage is somewhat work. Every day I feel you must work at your marriage, you cannot sit back and think that all will be okay. Otherwise one or both becomes complacent! As anyone married will tell you, there are days of utter bliss and there are days of pure annoyance. Marriage has many rewards but one of the biggest rewards comes when you can get through the toughest times knowing that when it is all said and done your marriage is that much stronger.
I can vouch, we definitely have been through some tough and interesting times. From scary pregnancies, premature babies, lost employments, medical issues, a separation, reconstructive surgeries, extended family drama, a life altering accident and long term permanent disability, crooked attorneys, passing of family members; all leading to life changing moments that have made us who we are today. US!!!!
Despite all the riffraff of life, our roller coaster ride has been ridden with plenty of love, prayers, support, laughs, tears, and smiles. Here is to another twenty years and another twenty years, through the downward spiral and the upward climb, either way, our safe place is our family unit. Which was started with just you and I. For that brings the butterflies in my stomach and tears of joy.
Through it all, we have marked our milestones as at five years we threw a huge party, at ten years we celebrated in Cabo while celebrating a new marriage of Alison and Tony while getting new rings a kind of new beginning, at fifteen years we celebrated quietly at home with family and now our twentieth we are getting away for the weekend (no kids I might add) to enjoy our time together. I know when we first met we talked about everything and our plans for the future, never in my wildest dreams, I thought we would be where we are today. I can truly say, looking back, I would not have it any other way. I am so thankful for everything that has happened, what we have seen, shared, done, been given and been able to do.... ALL TOGETHER!!!!
Twenty years is a lot of time. Some of the time, we have taken for granted but for the most part we have done Awesome! I love you always and forever, Happy Anniversary! xoxo
So it's not gonna be easy. It's going to be really hard; we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me... everyday.” - Nicholas Sparks
Until Next Time...Make It A Great Day!
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